Whereas wisdom in understanding deeply about an individual is a psychological aspect of human life, it is a skill that can easily be applied by anyone. It’s possible to collect a ton of information about others merely by paying attention. Below are such clues in my connections with folks to comprehend who they are.
-Response/reaction to criticism- If an individual is incapable of admitting criticism from others, or is even furious at any slight confrontation, the person may be very arrogant and narcissistic.
-Their treatment towards junior members of the society: what is their treatment towards his/her househelp, waiter, gateman, etc. This speaks volumes and discloses hidden character traits.
-Their reaction towards free things-how does he/she react to free things? Give them free things and you will know their true colors.
-Their motive in every question they ask- Do they ask questions for gossip or growth /knowledge.
-Financial discipline –Does he spend his money on playing games, eating, drinking, and having fun, or on future investments, this exposes more about his values, and what he stands for.
-Is their word corresponding to their actions? See whether what they say reflects what they do.
-Your instincts towards them- Your intuition is essentially the reaction of your visceral brain to hidden signals, while your conscious brain has not yet understood it. So, sometimes have faith in your first instinct.
-Body language-you can easily determine a person’s innermost self from his body language unless you are dealing with a professional in concealing body language.
-Reaction under unforgiving /difficult situations: An individual's personality is affected by the basic family and life around him, and it may be possible to camouflage it under ordinary conditions, but under some level of pressure, the person's unique character will reveal.
-Social circle- what is his/her social circle? Who does he interact with? Collecting individuals in clusters by things, what their friends are like, and what he/she is like, helps in defining the kind of a person one is.
We cannot claim perfection every time, all the time, but then again being watchful and discerning behavioral patterns can be impactful on your life. The more observant you are, the more you rim yourself with people who actually enhance your life.
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